How to Make Big Decisions Together as a Couple
https://www.connectedcouples.app/blog/how-couples-make-big-decisions-together

Original Connected planning aid. Adapt these examples together. This is not a scored or validated assessment.

Make the decision together

A decision path, without rushing

01: Define. What is the decision? Name each person’s needs.

02: Compare. Include real alternatives and doing nothing for now.

03: Check constraints. Name the firm limits and the trade-offs.

04: Test. Try a reversible step if it can answer a key question.

05: Review. Agree who does what next and when to revisit it.

If either person feels pressured, pause before making a commitment.

The decision and real deadline
Example: Whether to accept the relocation offer by Friday
Our draft: __________________________

What each person needs protected
Example: A's training placement; B's access to family
Our draft: __________________________

Options, including waiting or testing
Example: Move now; decline; ask about a later start
Our draft: __________________________

The unknown and who will investigate it
Example: B asks the employer about start-date flexibility
Our draft: __________________________

What requires two clear yeses
Example: Signing a lease or committing shared savings
Our draft: __________________________


| Decision question | Partner A | Partner B | What needs checking |
| --- | --- | --- | --- |
| What outcome matters most |  |  |  |
| What must be protected |  |  |  |
| What is flexible |  |  |  |
| Which option currently fits best |  |  |  |
| What downside worries you |  |  |  |
| What fact could change your view |  |  |  |

Our next step: ______________________________
Who has agreed to do it: ____________________
We will revisit this on: ____________________