Most lists of "who's most likely to" questions hand you seventy-five prompts and wish you luck.
The Knot's version, which currently outranks nearly everyone, says outright that it does not explain scoring or turn-taking. That is fine for a group of eight at a bachelorette party, where the game plays itself. With two people it falls apart, because there is nobody to vote against.
So here is the version that actually works for a couple. There is a rule that makes it a game, a score that makes it competitive, and a five-minute debrief at the end that makes it worth having played. Then 150 prompts, sorted from easy to uncomfortable.
"When two people disagree about who is most likely to apologize first, neither of them is wrong. They are describing two different relationships, both of which exist. That gap is the most useful thing a couple can look at, and a game is the safest place to find it."
How to play with two people
The point-on-three rule
- One person reads a prompt out loud.
- Count together: three, two, one.
- Both point at the same time, at yourself or at your partner. No hesitating, no watching the other hand.
- You agree: one point to the pair. You disagree: zero, and you say one sentence about why.
- Play twenty prompts. Track the pair score, not individual scores.
The score belongs to the couple, not to either of you. This matters more than it sounds. The moment it becomes one person winning, the honest answers stop.
If you both point at yourselves, that counts as a disagreement. Two people racing to claim the same flaw is worth at least as much conversation as two people denying it.
What your score actually means
Out of twenty prompts
- 16 to 20 agreements. You see each other clearly. Play the harder sections.
- 10 to 15. Normal, and the disagreements are the good part. Go back to three of them.
- Under 10. Not a red flag. Usually it means one of you has changed recently and nobody has updated the file.
Start here. Low stakes, high hit rate, and it establishes that pointing at each other is not an accusation.
- Who's most likely to leave a cupboard door open?
- Who's most likely to lose their phone in the house?
- Who's most likely to hit snooze four times?
- Who's most likely to eat the last of something and not mention it?
- Who's most likely to leave laundry in the machine overnight?
- Who's most likely to say they are ready when they are not?
- Who's most likely to overpack for a weekend?
- Who's most likely to talk to the pet in a silly voice?
- Who's most likely to fall asleep during a film?
- Who's most likely to reheat the same coffee three times?
- Who's most likely to buy something they already own?
- Who's most likely to leave shoes in the hallway?
- Who's most likely to check the weather obsessively?
- Who's most likely to forget why they walked into a room?
- Who's most likely to keep an empty box just in case?
- Who's most likely to say they will do it later and mean it?
- Who's most likely to reorganize a drawer instead of doing the real task?
- Who's most likely to eat cereal for dinner?
- Who's most likely to be found awake at 2am on their phone?
- Who's most likely to volunteer for the errand nobody wants?
These are the ones you will still be quoting at each other next week.
- Who's most likely to trip over absolutely nothing?
- Who's most likely to cry at an advert?
- Who's most likely to start dancing in a supermarket aisle?
- Who's most likely to argue with a self-checkout machine?
- Who's most likely to laugh at their own joke first?
- Who's most likely to get lost with a map in their hand?
- Who's most likely to burn water?
- Who's most likely to wave back at someone who was not waving at them?
- Who's most likely to sing the wrong lyrics with total confidence?
- Who's most likely to be recognized by a stranger for the wrong reason?
- Who's most likely to get emotional about a dog they have never met?
- Who's most likely to walk into a glass door?
- Who's most likely to fall for an obvious prank?
- Who's most likely to take a joke one step too far?
- Who's most likely to name a houseplant?
- Who's most likely to talk their way out of a parking ticket?
- Who's most likely to forget their own age for a second?
- Who's most likely to reply to a text three days late?
- Who's most likely to become weirdly competitive at mini golf?
- Who's most likely to laugh at the worst possible moment?
- Who's most likely to be defeated by flat-pack furniture?
- Who's most likely to reply all by accident?
- Who's most likely to injure themselves on a night out?
- Who's most likely to be caught singing in the car?
- Who's most likely to insist they are not lost?
- Who's most likely to say the quiet part out loud?
- Who's most likely to befriend the waiter?
- Who's most likely to lose an argument on purpose?
- Who's most likely to forget they already told this story?
- Who's most likely to make a scene about a spider?
One question a day, not one game night
Connected sends you and your partner a new prompt every morning. You each answer privately, then reveal together. Over 1,000 of them.
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Where couples discover they have very different definitions of the word holiday.
- Who's most likely to miss a flight?
- Who's most likely to plan the whole trip on a spreadsheet?
- Who's most likely to want to stay one more day?
- Who's most likely to book something without checking with the other?
- Who's most likely to get sunburnt on day one?
- Who's most likely to eat street food from a place with no name?
- Who's most likely to forget their passport?
- Who's most likely to want a lie-in on holiday?
- Who's most likely to talk to strangers at the hotel bar?
- Who's most likely to overpay for convenience?
- Who's most likely to insist on the walking route?
- Who's most likely to take four hundred photos and look at none of them?
- Who's most likely to get us upgraded?
- Who's most likely to complain about the pillows?
- Who's most likely to want to move there permanently?
- Who's most likely to lose something important abroad?
- Who's most likely to want a plan for every hour?
- Who's most likely to suggest one more drink?
- Who's most likely to be homesick first?
- Who's most likely to want to go back to the same place forever?
This is where the score usually drops. That is the point.
- Who's most likely to stay calm in an emergency?
- Who's most likely to panic first and hide it?
- Who's most likely to make the decision when neither of us wants to?
- Who's most likely to be the one everyone calls?
- Who's most likely to cancel plans at the last minute?
- Who's most likely to say yes when they mean no?
- Who's most likely to hold a grudge?
- Who's most likely to apologize first?
- Who's most likely to go quiet instead of arguing?
- Who's most likely to bring up something from two years ago?
- Who's most likely to be the first to reach out after a fight?
- Who's most likely to pretend they are fine?
- Who's most likely to ask for help?
- Who's most likely to overthink a text?
- Who's most likely to lose sleep over something small?
- Who's most likely to take criticism personally?
- Who's most likely to cry when they are angry?
- Who's most likely to walk out of the room?
- Who's most likely to fix it by making a joke?
- Who's most likely to remember exactly what was said?
If you disagree on "who's most likely to apologize first," stop the game and ask why, once. Not to win it. Partners routinely believe they are the one who repairs the relationship, and both of them have evidence. That conversation is worth more than the rest of the list combined.
Answer these honestly and you will learn something about who is doing the emotional work.
- Who's most likely to plan a surprise?
- Who's most likely to say I love you first, every time?
- Who's most likely to remember an anniversary?
- Who's most likely to write the longer card?
- Who's most likely to want to hold hands in public?
- Who's most likely to fall asleep mid-conversation?
- Who's most likely to initiate a hug?
- Who's most likely to notice a new haircut?
- Who's most likely to reread old messages?
- Who's most likely to keep a ticket stub?
- Who's most likely to say the sentimental thing out loud?
- Who's most likely to cry at the wedding?
- Who's most likely to be embarrassed by a public compliment?
- Who's most likely to bring home flowers with no reason?
- Who's most likely to want to talk it through at midnight?
- Who's most likely to need reassurance and not ask?
- Who's most likely to notice when the other is off?
- Who's most likely to make the first move?
- Who's most likely to fall in love with the idea before the person?
- Who's most likely to say the thing that changes everything?
Fair warning: several of these are actually conversations wearing a game costume.
- Who's most likely to want to move somewhere new?
- Who's most likely to be the strict one with kids?
- Who's most likely to spoil a grandchild?
- Who's most likely to want a bigger family gathering?
- Who's most likely to keep in touch with old friends?
- Who's most likely to work past retirement?
- Who's most likely to want a dog before a baby?
- Who's most likely to plan for the worst?
- Who's most likely to say yes to a risky opportunity?
- Who's most likely to worry about money that we have?
- Who's most likely to be the one who calls their parents?
- Who's most likely to want to host the holidays?
- Who's most likely to change careers at forty?
- Who's most likely to want to slow down first?
- Who's most likely to keep every photograph?
- Who's most likely to be the one who remembers birthdays?
- Who's most likely to want a quiet life?
- Who's most likely to say we should just go for it?
- Who's most likely to be the calm one in old age?
- Who's most likely to still be surprising the other in thirty years?
The mismatches are worth revisiting
Connected asks you both the same question, then shows you the answers side by side. That is where the interesting conversations live.
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Do not open with these. They are for a couple who has already laughed for twenty minutes and agreed nothing said here gets quoted back.
- Who's most likely to keep something from the other to protect them?
- Who's most likely to say they are fine when they are not?
- Who's most likely to need more reassurance than they admit?
- Who's most likely to be the first to notice we are drifting?
- Who's most likely to avoid a hard conversation?
- Who's most likely to have thought about leaving?
- Who's most likely to give up something they wanted for the other?
- Who's most likely to be secretly disappointed and never say?
- Who's most likely to change to keep the peace?
- Who's most likely to feel unappreciated?
- Who's most likely to be carrying something from years ago?
- Who's most likely to apologize without meaning it?
- Who's most likely to be the more forgiving one?
- Who's most likely to need time alone and not ask for it?
- Who's most likely to be more afraid of losing this?
- Who's most likely to have grown the most since we met?
- Who's most likely to still be holding back?
- Who's most likely to say the thing we are both thinking?
- Who's most likely to fight for this if it got hard?
- Who's most likely to be right about us?
The five minutes that make it worth playing
When the twenty prompts are done, do not scatter. Go back to three disagreements and ask one question about each.
The debrief
- Pick the three that surprised you most. Not the funniest ones.
- Ask "what made you point at me?" Once. Listen to the whole answer.
- Do not defend yourself. Say thank you. You are collecting information, not standing trial.
A partner who thinks you are most likely to avoid a hard conversation is telling you something they have probably been sitting on. The game made it sayable. That is the only reason to play.
If you want the same information without the pointing, our this or that questions get there faster, and the conversation starters for couples get there deeper. To make it a habit rather than an evening, a daily question does the remembering for you.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do you play who's most likely to with just two people?
Count to three and point at once. With a group you are voting; with two people you are guessing what your partner thinks. The disagreements are the entire game, because they show you the gap between how you see yourself and how you are seen.
How do you score who's most likely to?
One point each time you both point at the same person. Zero when you disagree. Play twenty prompts. A high score means you see each other clearly, and a low score is not a bad sign, it is a list of things worth talking about.
What are good who's most likely to questions for couples?
The ones where you genuinely cannot predict the answer. Anything where you both immediately know it is you is a wasted turn. Aim for the prompts that make one of you say "wait, really?"
Is who's most likely to a good game for couples?
It is one of the few party games that works better with two people than with ten, because the point stops being who wins and becomes whether you agree. Every disagreement is a small, safe piece of information about how you see each other.
What do you do when you disagree on an answer?
Stop and ask why, once. Not to argue the point, just to hear the reasoning. A partner who thinks you are most likely to cancel plans has a reason, and the reason is usually more interesting than the prompt.