Take research-based couple assessments. Discover your Love Language, Attachment Style, Communication patterns, Conflict Style, and more. Both partners take each assessment independently, then explore personalized insights and track progress together over time.
Relationship assessments help you uncover patterns, strengths, and growth areas that are difficult to see from the inside. Built on decades of peer-reviewed relationship research, Connected's couple assessments give you an evidence-based foundation for meaningful conversations and lasting growth.
Most couples underestimate what they are doing well. Assessments reveal the relationship dynamics that are already working, giving you language to celebrate what makes your partnership strong and a baseline to build upon together.
Small misalignments in communication, conflict, or emotional needs can grow into larger issues when left unexamined. Couple assessments surface these patterns early so you can address them proactively rather than reactively during a disagreement.
Retake assessments every few months to measure how your relationship is evolving. Connected stores your historical results so you can see trends, celebrate improvements, and catch any backsliding before it becomes a bigger concern.
Connected makes couple assessments easy, private, and genuinely useful. Here is how the process works from start to finish.
Browse the full catalog of 6 relationship assessments inside the app. Each one covers a different dimension of your relationship, from communication and conflict to money and stress. Pick whichever topic feels most relevant to where you are right now, or start with a foundational assessment like Love Language or Attachment Style to build your relationship profile.
Both you and your partner take the same assessment separately within the app. There is no peeking at each other's answers. Honest, independent responses lead to the most accurate and insightful results. Each assessment takes between 5 and 15 minutes, and you can pause and resume anytime if something comes up.
Once both partners finish, Connected generates a detailed insights report showing your individual results side by side. You will see where you align, where you differ, and what those differences actually mean for your day-to-day relationship. Each report includes actionable recommendations tailored to your specific scores and dynamics.
Sit down together to explore your results. Use the built-in discussion prompts to talk through what surprised you, what confirmed what you already knew, and what you want to work on next. Retake assessments every 3 to 6 months to track your growth, and export results to share with your couples therapist if you are working with one.
Each assessment is grounded in peer-reviewed research and takes 5 to 15 minutes per person. Results are instant, private, and shared only between you and your partner.
Discover how you and your partner prefer to give and receive love, inspired by Dr. Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages. The one assessment that's free for every couple.
Understand the attachment patterns you each bring into the relationship, rooted in the attachment research tradition of Bowlby and Ainsworth, and what your combination means day to day.
Evaluate how you and your partner communicate in everyday conversations and high-stakes discussions, informed by the Gottman research on communication patterns.
Identify your default approach to disagreements and what happens when your two styles meet, so conflict becomes something you navigate together instead of a recurring surprise.
Compare how you each think about money: spending, saving, planning, and financial stress. Money is one of the most common sources of couple conflict, and clarity helps.
Learn how each of you responds under pressure and what you each need from the other when life gets heavy, so stressful seasons pull you together instead of apart.
Not all relationship quizzes are created equal. Here is what separates Connected's research-based couple assessments from the free quizzes you find scattered across the internet.
Every assessment is built on peer-reviewed science from Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Gary Chapman, and other leading relationship researchers. No pop psychology or entertainment quizzes here.
Both partners take each assessment independently, and results compare both perspectives side by side. You see areas of alignment and difference that would be invisible from just one person's view.
Retake assessments every few months and see your historical scores visualized as trends. Celebrate what is improving and identify areas that need renewed attention before they escalate.
After each assessment, Connected's AI analyzes your results in the context of your broader relationship data to generate personalized action steps, conversation starters, and exercises specific to your dynamics.
Export comprehensive PDF reports containing your assessment results, patterns, and progress trends. Share them with your couples therapist so sessions can focus on targeted guidance rather than intake questions.
Your assessment data is encrypted and shared only between you and your partner. Nothing is sold to third parties, used for advertising, or visible to anyone outside your relationship. You own your data entirely.
Most couples apps offer one or two basic quizzes. Connected provides a comprehensive assessment suite that covers every major dimension of your relationship.
| Feature | Connected | Paired | Lasting |
|---|---|---|---|
| Number of Assessments | 6 | 2-3 | 1-2 |
| Love Language Assessment | |||
| Attachment Style Assessment | |||
| Communication | |||
| Conflict Style | |||
| Financial Compatibility | |||
| Stress Response | |||
| Progress Tracking Over Time | |||
| Therapist-Ready PDF Reports | |||
| AI-Powered Recommendations |
Connected offers 6 research-based couple assessments: Love Language (inspired by Dr. Gary Chapman's framework, and free for every couple), Attachment Style (rooted in the attachment research of Bowlby and Ainsworth), Communication (informed by Gottman's research on communication patterns), Conflict Style, Financial Compatibility, and Stress Response. Each is 12 questions per partner and provides personalized insights and actionable recommendations for your unique relationship. Connected also includes a separate Relationship Satisfaction check built on the CSI-4, a validated research instrument.
Connected's assessments are grounded in peer-reviewed relationship science, including the Gottman Method's decades of couples research, attachment theory developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, and Dr. Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages framework. The six couple assessments are reflective tools built on those frameworks rather than clinical diagnostic instruments. Connected's Relationship Satisfaction check is the exception: it uses the CSI-4 (Couples Satisfaction Index; Funk & Rogge 2007), a validated research instrument, scored with its published interpretation.
Most assessments take between 5 and 15 minutes per person depending on the depth of the topic. Shorter assessments like Love Language and Relationship Satisfaction take around 5 to 7 minutes, while more comprehensive ones like Attachment Style and Shared Values take 8 to 10 minutes. You can pause at any point and resume later, so there is no pressure to finish in one sitting. We recommend taking assessments when you have a few quiet, uninterrupted minutes to reflect thoughtfully on each question. Results are generated instantly after both partners complete the assessment.
Absolutely, and we strongly encourage it. Retaking assessments every 3 to 6 months is one of the most powerful ways to measure real growth in your relationship. Connected stores your complete history of results so you can see how your scores evolve over time. This makes it easy to celebrate genuine improvements, identify areas where you may have plateaued, and catch any backsliding before it becomes a larger problem. Progress tracking transforms assessments from a one-time curiosity into an ongoing tool for intentional relationship development.
Unlike generic online quizzes, Connected's assessments are research-based, both partners take them independently inside the app, and the results feed your shared relationship profile: side-by-side comparisons, AI insights, and progress tracking over time. You retake them as your relationship grows, and you can export therapist-ready reports.
Yes, and therapists consistently tell us this is one of Connected's most valuable features. You can export comprehensive therapist reports as PDF that include your assessment scores, areas of alignment and difference, AI-generated insights, and longitudinal progress trends. These reports give your couples therapist a detailed understanding of your relationship dynamics before you even sit down for a session, allowing them to focus on targeted guidance rather than spending valuable session time on intake questions. Export reports directly from the app and share via email or print.
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