Take scientifically validated couple assessments designed by relationship experts. Discover your Love Language, Attachment Style, Communication Patterns, Conflict Resolution Style, and more. Both partners take each assessment independently, then explore personalized insights and track progress together over time.
Download Free on iOSRelationship assessments help you uncover patterns, strengths, and growth areas that are difficult to see from the inside. Built on decades of peer-reviewed relationship research, Connected's couple assessments give you an evidence-based foundation for meaningful conversations and lasting growth.
Most couples underestimate what they are doing well. Assessments reveal the relationship dynamics that are already working, giving you language to celebrate what makes your partnership strong and a baseline to build upon together.
Small misalignments in communication, conflict, or emotional needs can grow into larger issues when left unexamined. Couple assessments surface these patterns early so you can address them proactively rather than reactively during a disagreement.
Retake assessments every few months to measure how your relationship is evolving. Connected stores your historical results so you can see trends, celebrate improvements, and catch any backsliding before it becomes a bigger concern.
Connected makes couple assessments easy, private, and genuinely useful. Here is how the process works from start to finish.
Browse the full catalog of 10+ relationship assessments inside the app. Each one covers a different dimension of your relationship, from communication and conflict to intimacy and shared values. Pick whichever topic feels most relevant to where you are right now, or start with a foundational assessment like Love Language or Attachment Style to build your relationship profile.
Both you and your partner take the same assessment separately within the app. There is no peeking at each other's answers. Honest, independent responses lead to the most accurate and insightful results. Each assessment takes between 5 and 15 minutes, and you can pause and resume anytime if something comes up.
Once both partners finish, Connected generates a detailed insights report showing your individual results side by side. You will see where you align, where you differ, and what those differences actually mean for your day-to-day relationship. Each report includes actionable recommendations tailored to your specific scores and dynamics.
Sit down together to explore your results. Use the built-in discussion prompts to talk through what surprised you, what confirmed what you already knew, and what you want to work on next. Retake assessments every 3 to 6 months to track your growth, and export results to share with your couples therapist if you are working with one.
Each assessment is grounded in peer-reviewed research and takes 5 to 15 minutes per person. Results are instant, private, and shared only between you and your partner.
Discover how you and your partner prefer to give and receive love. Based on Dr. Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages framework, this assessment reveals whether you connect most through Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, or Receiving Gifts. Understanding each other's primary love language eliminates guesswork and helps you show love in ways that truly resonate.
5-7 minUnderstand your attachment patterns: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant, or Fearful-Avoidant. Rooted in the work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, this assessment explains how early experiences shape the way you relate to your partner today. Learn how to recognize insecure patterns and build a more secure bond together over time.
8-10 minEvaluate how you and your partner communicate during everyday conversations and high-stakes discussions alike. This assessment identifies the presence of Gottman's Four Horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. You will receive targeted strategies for replacing destructive patterns with healthier communication habits that protect your relationship.
7-9 minIdentify your default approach to disagreements: Competing, Collaborating, Compromising, Avoiding, or Accommodating. Informed by the Thomas-Kilmann model and Gottman's research on repair attempts, this assessment helps you understand how your conflict styles interact with your partner's and offers strategies for turning disagreements into opportunities for deeper connection.
6-8 minExplore three dimensions of closeness: emotional intimacy (feeling safe to be vulnerable), physical intimacy (affection and physical connection), and intellectual intimacy (sharing ideas and curiosity). This assessment reveals where your intimacy needs align and where there may be gaps worth addressing through intentional effort and open dialogue.
7-9 minEvaluate the foundation of emotional safety in your relationship. This assessment measures how secure each partner feels being vulnerable, sharing fears, and expressing needs without judgment. Trust is the bedrock of every healthy relationship, and understanding where it is strong and where it may need reinforcement is essential for long-term satisfaction.
6-8 minMeasure your ability to recognize, understand, and manage emotions in yourself and in your partner. Emotional intelligence is one of the strongest predictors of relationship satisfaction and longevity. This assessment covers self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and social skills within the context of your romantic relationship.
8-10 minAssess overall relationship happiness across key dimensions including emotional connection, trust, communication quality, shared goals, physical affection, and future vision. This broad assessment provides a holistic snapshot of where your relationship stands and which specific areas would benefit most from focused attention and investment.
5-7 minCompare your core values, life goals, and visions for the future. This assessment explores alignment around money, family planning, career ambitions, spirituality, lifestyle preferences, and personal growth. Understanding where you share values and where you differ helps you navigate important life decisions as a team rather than as individuals pulling in separate directions.
8-10 minExamine power balance, decision-making patterns, emotional labor distribution, and responsibility sharing in your relationship. This Gottman-inspired assessment ensures your partnership feels equitable and mutually supportive, identifying any imbalances that may be creating resentment or disconnection beneath the surface.
6-8 minNot all relationship quizzes are created equal. Here is what separates Connected's research-based couple assessments from the free quizzes you find scattered across the internet.
Every assessment is built on peer-reviewed science from Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Gary Chapman, and other leading relationship researchers. No pop psychology or entertainment quizzes here.
Both partners take each assessment independently, and results compare both perspectives side by side. You see areas of alignment and difference that would be invisible from just one person's view.
Retake assessments every few months and see your historical scores visualized as trends. Celebrate what is improving and identify areas that need renewed attention before they escalate.
After each assessment, Connected's AI analyzes your results in the context of your broader relationship data to generate personalized action steps, conversation starters, and exercises specific to your dynamics.
Export comprehensive PDF reports containing your assessment results, patterns, and progress trends. Share them with your couples therapist so sessions can focus on targeted guidance rather than intake questions.
Your assessment data is encrypted and shared only between you and your partner. Nothing is sold to third parties, used for advertising, or visible to anyone outside your relationship. You own your data entirely.
Most couples apps offer one or two basic quizzes. Connected provides a comprehensive assessment suite that covers every major dimension of your relationship.
Connected offers 10+ research-based couple assessments covering all major dimensions of your relationship. The current catalog includes: Love Language Assessment based on Dr. Gary Chapman's framework, Attachment Style Assessment rooted in Bowlby and Ainsworth's research, Communication Patterns Assessment incorporating Gottman's Four Horsemen, Conflict Resolution Style Assessment, Emotional Intelligence Assessment, Relationship Satisfaction Scale, Trust and Safety Assessment, Intimacy Assessment covering emotional, physical, and intellectual closeness, Shared Values Assessment, and Relationship Dynamics Assessment. Each assessment provides personalized insights and actionable recommendations tailored to your unique relationship.
Yes. Connected's assessments are built on decades of peer-reviewed relationship science. Our foundations include the Gottman Method with over 40 years of research studying thousands of couples, attachment theory developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, Emotionally Focused Therapy by Dr. Sue Johnson with a 70-75% recovery rate, and the Five Love Languages framework by Dr. Gary Chapman. Each assessment is designed by relationship experts to deliver accurate, clinically meaningful results rather than entertainment-grade personality quizzes.
Most assessments take between 5 and 15 minutes per person depending on the depth of the topic. Shorter assessments like Love Language and Relationship Satisfaction take around 5 to 7 minutes, while more comprehensive ones like Attachment Style and Shared Values take 8 to 10 minutes. You can pause at any point and resume later, so there is no pressure to finish in one sitting. We recommend taking assessments when you have a few quiet, uninterrupted minutes to reflect thoughtfully on each question. Results are generated instantly after both partners complete the assessment.
Absolutely, and we strongly encourage it. Retaking assessments every 3 to 6 months is one of the most powerful ways to measure real growth in your relationship. Connected stores your complete history of results so you can see how your scores evolve over time. This makes it easy to celebrate genuine improvements, identify areas where you may have plateaued, and catch any backsliding before it becomes a larger problem. Progress tracking transforms assessments from a one-time curiosity into an ongoing tool for intentional relationship development.
The differences are substantial. Free online quizzes are typically designed for entertainment, give results based on only one person's answers, and provide generic advice that does not account for your specific relationship dynamics. Connected's assessments are scientifically validated, require both partners to participate independently, compare both perspectives side by side, track progress over time, integrate with AI-powered coaching for personalized recommendations, and allow you to export detailed PDF reports for couples therapy. Most competitor apps offer 1 to 3 assessments, while Connected provides 10 or more covering every major dimension of your relationship.
Yes, and therapists consistently tell us this is one of Connected's most valuable features. You can export comprehensive therapist reports as PDF that include your assessment scores, areas of alignment and difference, AI-generated insights, and longitudinal progress trends. These reports give your couples therapist a detailed understanding of your relationship dynamics before you even sit down for a session, allowing them to focus on targeted guidance rather than spending valuable session time on intake questions. Export reports directly from the app and share via email or print.
Download Connected and take your first couple assessment in minutes. Discover your strengths, spot growth areas early, and track your relationship progress together over time.
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