The app for engaged couples who want to start marriage strong
Engagement is the best window to do the pre-marital work that actually matters. Connected gives you the assessments, conversations, and frameworks most couples wait until therapy to find.
What research says engaged couples should actually do
Most engaged couples spend their engagement planning a wedding and assuming the marriage part will work itself out. Couples research is clear that this is backwards. The couples who stay married and satisfied tend to have done specific kinds of pre-marital work: assessments of each other's communication and conflict styles, explicit conversations about finances, in-laws, kids, sex, and careers, and a framework for repair after the first big fight.
Programs like PREPARE/ENRICH and the Gottman Institute's pre-marital workshops have decades of data showing that couples who do this kind of work report higher marital satisfaction 5 and 10 years in. The problem is that these programs cost $200-$500 and require scheduling.
Connected compresses the meaningful parts of that pre-marital work into an app you actually use. The same Gottman frameworks, attachment theory assessments, and conflict-style diagnostics, in daily 5-minute doses. The engagement period is the ideal time to run this, because the patterns you're building right now are the patterns you'll have three years into marriage.
Why couples pick Connected
Premarital questions that actually reveal things
200+ questions specifically for engaged couples across money, sex, kids, in-laws, career, and values. More productive than the wedding-planning checklist.
Attachment + conflict style diagnostics
Both of you map your attachment and conflict styles. Suddenly the arguments you've been having make sense, and you know what to expect in marriage.
Pre-marital reports for officiants or therapists
Export a clean PDF summary to a pre-marital counselor or officiant. Skip months of intake.
Covers both partners
One Premium subscription, both of you have full access. No "which of us pays" decision on top of everything else you're deciding.
Research-backed, not wedding-industrial-complex
Tools from the Gottman Method, attachment theory, and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Not vibes.
Keeps being useful after the wedding
The same app works the rest of your marriage. Not a one-time purchase.
Features that matter most for engaged couples
200+ premarital questions
Question packs specifically for engaged couples: money, kids, sex, religion, career, in-laws, values, long-term vision. Answered independently, revealed together.
Learn more →10+ couple assessments
Love language, attachment style, communication style, conflict style, CSI-4 satisfaction, core values, and more. Run them now and have the baseline before marriage begins.
Learn more →Premarital questions guide
Curated conversation starter: the 50 conversations every engaged couple should have before the wedding. Structured, not overwhelming.
Learn more →Conflict resolution suite
The tools the Gottman Institute uses in pre-marital workshops, in an app. Conflict replay, soft start-ups, repair attempts.
Learn more →AI coaching for pre-marital conversations
Ask the AI: "How do we talk about whose parents we spend Christmas with?" Get grounded, specific prep.
Learn more →Pre-marital therapist reports
Generate a summary of your assessments and communication patterns to bring to pre-marital counseling.
Learn more →Connected vs. other pre-marital prep options
Engaged couples usually consider three kinds of pre-marital work. Here's how the options compare.
| Connected | Gottman book | PREPARE/ENRICH | Pre-marital therapy | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Research-backed tools | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| Cost | $59.99/yr | $35 one-time | $200-$500 | $150-$250/session |
| Number of assessments | 10+ | 3-5 | 10-15 | Therapist-dependent |
| Available anytime | Yes | Book-dependent | Scheduled sessions | Scheduled sessions |
| Works after the wedding | Yes (ongoing) | No | No | Yes (if continue) |
| AI coaching | Yes | No | No | No |
| Covers both partners | Yes (1 sub) | Yes (one book) | Yes | Yes |
Frequently asked questions
Is this a replacement for pre-marital counseling?
No. Connected complements pre-marital counseling and works especially well in combination. If you are planning a church or officiant-required pre-marital counseling anyway, Connected will make those sessions much more productive. If you are not doing formal counseling, Connected is a reasonable lower-cost substitute for most couples.
Do we need to be living together already?
No. Many engaged couples using Connected are not yet living together. The app works across any configuration. Living-together questions come up in the question packs but are not required.
How long before the wedding should we start using it?
Six months before the wedding is ideal. That gives you time to work through the core assessments, major question areas (money, kids, in-laws), and a few conflict cycles. Three months minimum. Starting a month before the wedding is better than nothing but leaves less room for real conversation.
What if we already did pre-marital counseling?
Great, then use Connected to reinforce the frameworks and practice the tools between now and the wedding. The assessments give you baseline data to compare against three years into marriage.
Does it work for non-traditional relationships?
Yes. The content and frameworks are gender-neutral and work for same-sex couples, interracial couples, inter-religious couples, and any configuration. Some question packs have specific content for interfaith couples.
Is it awkward to do premarital questions in an app?
Less awkward than doing them in a Google Doc, which is what a lot of engaged couples default to. The app provides structure so you don't have to decide what to talk about next. A daily question is easier to commit to than "we should have the money conversation tonight."
What about money conversations specifically?
There is a dedicated Money question pack: debts, credit scores, spending philosophy, savings goals, kids' education, inheritance, prenups. If you want the research-backed version of the Ramsey financial conversation, this is close.
Will it help us decide if we are ready to get married?
The assessments, especially the satisfaction and values-alignment ones, can surface things worth considering. The app does not tell you whether to get married. If you are having serious doubts, a pre-marital counselor is more appropriate than an app.
Is there content on sex in marriage?
Yes. Intimacy check-ins and question packs include sex-related content: expectations, sexual compatibility, ongoing communication, frequency, what changes over time. Most engaged couples have had surprisingly few of these conversations.
Do we keep access after the wedding?
Yes. Connected is designed for long-term use. The same features work for year 1, year 10, year 30. The assessments become more valuable over time because you can see how answers change.
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