Long-Distance Relationship Workbook

Write down when connection is realistic, not when you wish both people were always free. Include work, sleep, friendships, care responsibilities and time alone.

Example

"I cannot reliably message during my shift. A note I can read afterward means more to me than feeling I have missed a live conversation."

1. My usual busy or offline times, in my time zone, are...
2. The kinds of contact I most enjoy, and how often they feel manageable:
3. What I want my partner to understand when I cannot respond quickly:

Answer separately, then take turns sharing. The PDF has writing space for Partner A and Partner B.

Choose a small number of reliable touchpoints. A missed call needs a practical repair, not a demand for location proof or instant access.

Example

"Sunday at 6 p.m. Denver / 8 p.m. New York. If one of us cannot make it, we propose two alternatives. A short voice note works on an exhausted day."

1. Our planned calls or messages, with both time zones written down:
2. How we will let each other know a plan needs to change:
3. A low-energy or poor-connection alternative we both like:

Use the writing space in the PDF for your shared notes or the named person’s response.

Discuss money and time before making commitments. Leave room for rest and ordinary life as well as special activities; a visit does not have to prove the entire relationship.

Example

"I want one day out together and also time to see your normal routine. Let's check the travel cost and time off before committing."

1. Possible dates, travel arrangements, cost limits and who will handle each detail:
2. What each person hopes the visit will include, including downtime:
3. What we need to discuss before booking, and our backup if plans change:

Use the writing space in the PDF for your shared notes or the named person’s response.

You can discuss hopes without inventing certainty. Separate what you want from what is currently possible, and name when you will return to unresolved questions.

Example

"I want us in the same place eventually, but I cannot promise a move this year. Could we discuss realistic options again after my contract review?"

1. What I hope our relationship will look like in the next year:
2. What would need to change for us to live closer, if that is what we both want?
3. One question we can answer now and one we need to revisit later:

Answer separately, then take turns sharing. The PDF has writing space for Partner A and Partner B.