Monthly Relationship Goals Planner

Think about everyday life, not what a successful couple is supposed to look like. You may have different priorities; the first task is hearing them.

Example

"I want a less rushed Sunday because I start Monday already exhausted. I would like us to try doing one household task earlier in the week."

1. One area of life I would like us to improve is...
2. Why that matters to me, in practical terms:
3. Something I want for myself that I would appreciate support with:

Answer separately, then take turns sharing. The PDF has writing space for Partner A and Partner B.

Compare your hopes and choose one you are both willing to work on. A shared goal is not one person persuading the other to adopt their whole plan.

Example

"For four weeks, we will protect one 30-minute walk together. A shorter walk still counts. We are not trying to schedule every evening."

1. Our goal for the next month, stated as something we can do:
2. What a good-enough result would look like for each of us:
3. What we are not taking on right now:

Use the writing space in the PDF for your shared notes or the named person’s response.

Make the first action small enough to do this week. Include resources such as time, money, energy and help from others. No one should quietly inherit all the planning.

Example: Put two possible walking times in the calendar together tonight. If the week becomes crowded, choose one ten-minute walk instead.

Return after the month. A useful review asks whether the goal still fits your lives and whether the work was shared in a way both people can sustain.

Example

"We walked twice, and those evenings felt less rushed. Four weeks was too much to plan ahead. Let's choose the time each Sunday."

1. What changed, even a little, because we tried this?
2. What felt fair or unfair about the effort required?
3. Will we keep, shrink, change or stop this goal? What is the next action?

Use the writing space in the PDF for your shared notes or the named person’s response.