Relationship Boundaries Worksheet

Think about a situation where you often feel stretched, interrupted or uncomfortable. Your feelings are information to explore; they do not automatically tell you what another person must do.

Example

"I need half an hour to decompress after work" describes a need. "You cannot talk to anyone after work" tries to control another person.

1. A situation where I need a clearer limit is...
2. What I want to protect, such as rest, privacy, connection or choice:
3. What I can decide for myself, and what would require mutual agreement:

Answer separately, then take turns sharing. The PDF has writing space for Partner A and Partner B.

State what you are comfortable with and what you will do if the situation continues. Keep the action proportionate and within your control. A boundary is not a threat designed to make someone obey.

Example

"I will not continue a conversation with name-calling. I will pause and discuss a time to return when we can speak respectfully."

1. My boundary, in one plain sentence:
2. An action I can take to look after that boundary is...
3. A respectful alternative I am willing to discuss is...

Answer separately, then take turns sharing. The PDF has writing space for Partner A and Partner B.

Choose two topics from this list. Each person explains their preference before you try to make a shared agreement.

No partner owes passwords, location access or physical affection to prove love. Consent and privacy remain relevant within a committed relationship.

It is okay to need time. An agreement should say what each person chooses, not only what one person has to stop doing.

Example

"We will check with each other before inviting overnight guests. We still differ about visit length, so we will discuss that before the next invitation."

1. An agreement we both accept, with each person's part:
2. A difference we have not resolved yet, and how we will approach it:
3. When we will review whether the agreement still works:

Use the writing space in the PDF for your shared notes or the named person’s response.